One of the hardest things anyone can acknowledge is that they have a problem. We want be self-sufficient in control at all times. It hurts our pride to acknowledge weakness. And pornography of all problems is the last thing anyone wants to admit. The question is how much damage are you willing see out in your mind and relationships before you reach out?
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.Proverbs 27:17
Here’s what accountability looks like. I have Accountable2You software installed on all my devices. It costs ~$7 a month. (The most popular alternative is Covenant Eyes.) A2You sends a log of every webpage I visit to one of my mentors. That same mentor has made himself available for support around the clock. This system make it a lot more difficult to fall. And if I do compromise, there’s a process for getting back on track instead of digging a deeper hole—which is what people tend to do in the absence of support.
I also have free content restrictions on my phone that block pornographic websites. This is a good first step if you are strapped for cash. I also recommend downloading a secure browser and having your accountability partner install a passcode on your device. Don’t just involve anybody. Involve somebody you trust. Involve somebody who understands the issue. Involve somebody who can motivate you to be better not simply make you feel better when you mess up.
The end goal is to get to a point where you have no desire for pornography, but until then accountability is the way to go. Given the stakes, it is a very small investment to make.
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